The Misconception of Resilience: When Privilege, Not Perseverance, Is the Missing Ingredient

In society, we often celebrate resilience as a defining trait of strength and character. The ability to bounce back from adversity, to endure hardship, and to thrive despite challenges is lauded as an ultimate virtue. Yet, this emphasis on resilience often masks a more insidious issue: the unequal distribution of privilege. 

When someone appears to need more resilience, what they may truly lack is not an internal quality but rather the external advantages—privilege—that others take for granted. The focus on resilience often obscures the systemic barriers faced by marginalised individuals, and true equity requires not more resilience, but more privilege.

Let me break it down.

The Resilience Trap: Blaming the Individual

The notion that someone needs to be more resilient implicitly suggests that the problem lies within the individual rather than in their environment. This perspective is deeply problematic because it shifts the responsibility for overcoming obstacles onto those who are already disadvantaged, rather than addressing the root causes of their struggles. For example, consider a student from a low-income background who struggles to keep up with their peers in a well-resourced school. The expectation that this student must simply "try harder" ignores the fact that they may lack access to basic resources, such as tutoring, stable housing, or nutritious food—resources that their more privileged peers might take for granted.

This "resilience trap" is particularly harmful because it reinforces a cycle of inequality. By focusing on individual grit and perseverance, society absolves itself of the responsibility to create conditions where everyone has an equal opportunity to succeed. It perpetuates the myth of meritocracy, where success is seen as a result of hard work alone, rather than a combination of effort and access to resources.

Privilege as the Foundation for Success

Privilege, in its many forms, provides the foundation upon which resilience can truly be effective. Privilege is the unseen advantage that smooths the path, removes obstacles, and provides the safety nets that make resilience a viable strategy. Without privilege, resilience can become an exhausting and unsustainable effort, like running on a treadmill that never slows down.

Consider the workplace, where an employee who is a single parent may be judged as needing more resilience when they struggle to balance their job and childcare responsibilities. However, what they truly need is the kind of privilege that allows for flexible working hours, affordable childcare, or the financial security to take time off when necessary. In contrast, a colleague with a supportive partner, financial stability, and access to high-quality childcare might appear more resilient, but in reality, their success is significantly bolstered by these privileges.

The Intersection of Privilege and Resilience

It is important to recognise that resilience and privilege are not mutually exclusive; rather, they are deeply intertwined. Those with privilege often have more opportunities to develop and demonstrate resilience because their risks are lower and their support systems stronger. For example, someone with financial privilege can take risks in their career or education, knowing they have a safety net to fall back on. If they fail, they have the resources to try again. This ability to take risks and recover from setbacks is often mistaken for resilience when, in fact, it is the cushion of privilege that makes such resilience possible.

Conversely, those without privilege may be forced to expend all their energy just to survive, leaving little room for the kind of growth and development that resilience is supposed to foster. For these individuals, resilience is not a matter of choice but a constant, grueling necessity. This reality underscores the need to reassess how we view and value resilience, particularly in contexts where privilege is unequally distributed.

Shifting the Focus: From Resilience to Equity

If we are to create a more just and equitable society, we must shift our focus from expecting more resilience from individuals to dismantling the systemic barriers that necessitate it. 

This means acknowledging the role of privilege in shaping outcomes and taking active steps to level the playing field. For instance, instead of praising the resilience of workers who endure long hours with low pay, we should advocate for fair wages, reasonable working hours, and comprehensive social support systems. Instead of celebrating the resilience of students who overcome significant obstacles to succeed, we should work to ensure that all students have access to the resources they need to thrive.

By addressing the underlying issues of privilege and access, we can create a society where resilience is not a requirement for basic dignity and success. In such a society, individuals would not need to be extraordinarily resilient to achieve their goals, they would simply need to be human, with the same rights and opportunities as everyone else.

The Essential Role of Empathy

In the pursuit of a more equitable society, empathy plays a crucial role in bridging the gap between privilege and resilience. Empathy allows us to understand and internalise the struggles of those who lack privilege, seeing their challenges not as personal failings but as systemic issues that require collective action. When we approach others' experiences with empathy, we move beyond superficial judgments about their need for more resilience and begin to recognise the structural barriers that impede their progress. 

Empathy compels us to imagine what it would be like to walk in another person's shoes, understanding that their struggles are often compounded by a lack of access to resources, support, and opportunities. By fostering empathy, we create the foundation for policies and practices that prioritise equity, ensuring that everyone has the privilege they need to thrive. Through empathy, we shift from a culture of blame and self-reliance to one of understanding, support, and shared responsibility for creating a just and inclusive society.

Final Thoughts

The narrative that individuals need more resilience is often a convenient way to ignore the deeper issues of privilege and inequality. It places the burden of overcoming systemic barriers on those who are least equipped to do so, while absolving society of the responsibility to create fair and equitable conditions for all. 

To build a more just world, we must move beyond the glorification of resilience and focus instead on expanding privilege—ensuring that everyone has the support and resources they need to thrive. Only then can we truly say that we are a society that values equity, not just endurance.

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